“What attracts you (in love)?”
He has to be approved by my cat, Alanis! No, seriously. For years my cat has been a good indicator of whether or not the guy is a good guy. But until Hims and I got together, I’d never seen her come up and be really friendly with a guy. She actually put her paws on his knee and let him feed her some turkey from his sandwich the third time she met him!
Other than that, he must have a good sense of humor. Have intelligence. Be goofy. Not be appalled when I am goofy myself. (Yes, I’ve had guys think I needed to be Miss Perfect Girlfriend 24/7, and that’s just not me.) He has to be my friend as well as my boyfriend/romantic partner/etc. Be self-assured enough to not have to “mark his territory” if I’m talking to another guy. (That was mainly for when I was all slender and pretty!) Know better than to drink too much, and please don’t use drugs. Been there, done that, never want to go back. I love eyes and hands and smiles. I love a good, honest laugh.
It’s just a whole big package, things that work with other things, and that make me smile and feel comfortable around him.